but because of our love, I prefer just to ask you. So take this as a request from your friend Paul, an old man, now in prison for the sake of Christ Jesus.
My plea is that you show kindness to Onesimus. I think of him as my own son because he became a believer as a result of my ministry here in prison.
Onesimus hasn't been of much use to you in the past, but now he is very useful to both of us.
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I am sending him back to you, and with him comes my own heart.
I really wanted to keep him here with me while I am in these chains for preaching the Good News, and he would have helped me on your behalf.
But I didn't want to do anything without your consent. And I didn't want you to help because you were forced to do it but because you wanted to.
Perhaps you could think of it this way: Onesimus ran away for a little while so you could have him back forever.
He is no longer just a slave; he is a beloved brother, especially to me. Now he will mean much more to you, both as a slave and as a brother in the Lord.
So if you consider me your partner, give him the same welcome you would give me if I were coming.
If he has harmed you in any way or stolen anything from you, charge me for it.
I, Paul, write this in my own handwriting: "I will repay it." And I won't mention that you owe me your very soul!