A cartoon in a
national magazine recently showed a couple standing before a minister during
their wedding. The minister, looking at the bride, said, "The correct response
is 'I do' - not 'It's worth a try.'"
Love - in marriage and in other relationships - requires dogged commitment on
our part. Contrary to popular opinion, love doesn't come naturally for us humans.
Love is "others-centered" and self-sacrificing. We are self-centered
and, in our own natural selves, we care little about sacrifice unless powerfully
motivated. In fact, the Bible teaches that only someone who really knows God
through Jesus Christ is capable of the kind of love the Bible describes. John
wrote, "Love comes from God. Everyone who loves has been born of God and
knows God. Whoever does not love does not know God, because God is love"
(I John 4:7-8, NIV).
Paul taught that God's love is "poured out in our hearts" by the Holy
Spirit (Romans 5:5), and Jesus said that the world would recognize that we are
Christians by our love (John 13:35). Love grows as we nurture it. It develops
as we feed it. It expands as we persist in it. That kind of love has staying