Don't correct an older man, but encourage him like he's your father; treat younger men like your brothers,
treat older women like your mother, and treat younger women like your sisters with appropriate respect.
Take care of widows who are truly needy.
But if a particular widow has children or grandchildren, they should first learn to respect their own family and repay their parents, because this pleases God.
A widow who is truly needy and all alone puts her hope in God and keeps on going with requests and prayers, night and day.
But a widow who tries to live a life of luxury is dead even while she is alive.
Teach these things so that the familiesa will be without fault.
But if someone doesn't provide for their own family, and especially for a member of their household, they have denied the faith. They are worse than those who have no faith.
Put a widow on the list who is older than 60 years old and who was faithful to her husband.
She should have a reputation for doing good: raising children, providing hospitality to strangers, washing the feet of the saints, helping those in distress, and dedicating herself to every kind of good thing.
But don't accept younger widows for the list. When their physical desires distract them from Christ, they will want to get married.
Then they will be judged for setting aside their earlier commitment.
Also, they learn to be lazy by going from house to house. They are not only lazy, but they also become gossips and busybodies, talking about things they shouldn't.
So I want younger widows to marry, have children, and manage their homes so that they won't give the enemy any reason to slander us. (
Some have already turned away to follow Satan.)
If any woman who is a believer has widows in her family, she should take care of them and not burden the church, so that it can help other widows who are truly needy.
Elders who lead well should be paid double, especially those who work with public speaking and teaching.
The scripture says, Don't put a muzzle on an ox while it treads grain,b and Workers deserve their pay.c19
Don't accept an accusation made against an elder unless it is confirmed by two or three witnesses.
Discipline those who are sinning in front of everyone so that all the others will be afraid.
I charge you before God and Christ Jesus and the elect angels to follow these practices without bias, and without playing favorites.
Don't rush to commission anyone to leadership, and don't participate in the sins of others. Keep yourself morally pure.
Don't drink water anymore, but use a little wine because of your stomach problems and your frequent illnesses.
The sins of some people are obvious, and the sins are judged before the people must face judgment, but the sins of other people show up later.
In the same way, the good that people do is also obvious and can't be hidden.