In Java a unique wedding custom is observed. The day before the wedding the bride calls in all of her close friends. In their presence she burns her dolls, toys, and other cherished tokens of her childhood. Then her friends console her in the loss of these mementos by giving her many presents -- new objects identified with maturity. These signal that she is no longer a child.

Sometimes both bride and groom take childish things with them when they get married. They are not material things; they are mental and emotional things. The Bible urges us to leave father and mother when we get married. We need to also leave childlike behavior and childish attitudes.