Ben Sira 18:13-23

13 We can show compassion to someone we know, but the Lord shows compassion for all humanity. He corrects us; he disciplines us; he teaches us. Like a shepherd tending sheep, he brings us back to himself.
14 He will have compassion on us if we accept his guidance and are eager for him to show us where we are wrong.
15 My child, when you help someone, don't reprimand him at the same time. When you make a gift, don't say anything that hurts.
16 Your words count for more than what you give. Even dew gives some relief during a spell of hot weather.
17 Yes, kind words are more effective than the best of gifts, and if you are really concerned, you will give both.
18 It is stupid to be unkind and insulting. No one's eyes are going to sparkle at a gift that you resent giving.
19 Know what you are talking about before you speak, and give attention to your health before you get sick.
20 Examine your conscience before the Lord judges you; then when that time comes, he will forgive you.
21 Humble yourself before you are punished with sickness. When you have sinned, show repentance.
22 If you make a promise to the Lord, keep it as soon as you can. Don't wait until you are about to die to set things straight.
23 But before you make such a promise, be prepared to keep it. Don't try to test the Lord's patience.
Scripture taken from the Good News Translation - Second Edition, Copyright 1992 by American Bible Society. Used by Permission.