The idea of being a ‘wife of noble character’ comes from Proverbs 31:10-31. 

The text says (emphasis added), “A wife of noble character who can find? She is worth far more than rubies. Her husband has full confidence in her and lacks nothing of value. She brings him good, not harm, all the days of her life. She selects wool and flax and works with eager hands. She is like the merchant ships, bringing her food from afar. She gets up while it is still night; she provides food for her family and portions for her female servants. She considers a field and buys it; out of her earnings she plants a vineyard. She sets about her work vigorously; her arms are strong for her tasks. She sees that her trading is profitable, and her lamp does not go out at night. In her hand she holds the distaff and grasps the spindle with her fingers. She opens her arms to the poor and extends her hands to the needy. When it snows, she has no fear for her household; for all of them are clothed in scarlet. She makes coverings for her bed; she is clothed in fine linen and purple. Her husband is respected at the city gate, where he takes his seat among the elders of the land. She makes linen garments and sells them, and supplies the merchants with sashes. She is clothed with strength and dignity; she can laugh at the days to come. She speaks with wisdom; and faithful instruction is on her tongue. She watches over the affairs of her household and does not eat the bread of idleness. Her children arise and call her blessed; her husband also, and he praises her: “Many women do noble things, but you surpass them all.”Charm is deceptive, and beauty is fleeting; but a woman who fears the Lord is to be praised. Honor her for all that her hands have done, and let her works bring her praise at the city gate.”

Let’s explore what the text seeks to teach us about being a wife that fears the Lord. 

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Marriage comes with many ups and downs. If you are in a relationship with another person for long enough, they will do something to make you mad. It could be as simple as not putting clothes away properly, or as contentious as hurtful words or careless actions. We marry a person, not an idea. People are messy, broken, difficult, selfish, short-sighted, lazy, forgetful, unclear, and so much more. Love draws us together, but life reveals our failures and offers endless opportunities to forgive and grow.

Anger does not equate failure. Frustration is just part of this package. What we have to go after if we want to thrive together are the skills and tools required to process these emotions and all the other ones as a team. Prayer is just one of the most effective tools we can utilize when anger rises in our homes. Praying during life’s storms is us taking a moment to surrender to the Lord, invite in his healing, and ask for the wisdom we need to navigate conflict.

Praying When You're Angry Isn’t Easy

If we want prayer to become our default when tensions are high, we are going to have to practice and decide to do this well before the frustrating moment presents itself. In the heat of the moment, the last thing we want to do is quiet our mind and body so we can approach the Lord in prayer. Our instinct when things get heated is to defend ourselves. Justice becomes our primary objective when feelings are hurt.

Anger often blocks us from having empathy for our spouse, keeps us from approaching them with tenderness, and prevents us from offering them compassion. Our minds run away from us quickly, and words can spill out before we are really able to assess the situation with wisdom and grace. We must remember prayer does not excuse the sin or hurt, but it just brings God into it. Reconciliation only truly happens in our lives when God is involved. He is the only one with the power to heal our brokenness and set right our wrongs.

Prepare Your Heart Before You Pray

If we want to be successful in our endeavour to bring God into our conflict, we have to make a plan on how to get ourselves to our knees. The Psalms offer us beautiful examples of how we can approach God with our raw and real emotions. We can offer him our pain and questions. We can lament the hurt we are experiencing. And we can boldly ask God to grant us the wisdom and grace required to reconcile and remain unified as a couple. Here are some ways we can actually pray for our spouse when we face these moments:

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In our fast-paced and information-overloaded culture, anxiety is almost unavoidable. Our minds and bodies were never designed to carry the burdens of the whole world. Only God is equipped with the power to work all things together for our good (Romans 8:28). The best way to find peace in a world that is screaming reasons for fear at us is to meditate on the scriptures and approach God in prayer, exchanging our worries for his peace. They are full of reminders of God’s faithfulness, his power, his plan for us, and powerfully offers our hearts peace that surpasses understanding. 

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What we fixate our thoughts on, that is what we see. If our practice is to fill our souls with negativity, news that we cannot change or control, and live without faith that God can do good works, we will be filled with anxiety and despair. As believers we have the chance to see a greater reality than what fills the headlines on our screens. We can trust in that the merciful God-of-the-universe is always at work. With him we are never hopeless! 

Here are some quick prayers, verses, and meditations to remind us of God’s goodness when we are anxious:

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God is not asking for performance—He is asking for your heart, inviting you to walk humbly with Him through justice, mercy, and daily trust.