Have you ever had a frenemy?
When you read those words, do you immediately think of the high school lunch table? Or are you picturing another mom at school drop-off? Possibly, it's your childhood best friend that you still see every day, but you never really know where your relationship stands.
Let me explain if you are one of the few fortunate people who have no clue what I mean by a frenemy. A frenemy is a person with whom we are generally friendly despite a fundamental dislike or rivalry. In an article by Forbes Magazine, a group of psychologists interviewed 29 adults, ages 19-62, to better understand what traits define a frenemy.
They discovered that frenemy relationships were often, on the surface, outwardly cordial, even friendly, but were marked by underlying negative thoughts and actions toward people who shared social connections and situational ties. They found three prominent things in these relationships: competitiveness, jealousy, and distrust.
Sadly, I would argue that many of these types of relationships are found within the church. If we are honest, it isn't just frenemies that we have issues with; there are some people who we just don't really care for.
We know that Scripture has called us to love others, so how do we show genuine love to those who just get on our nerves, push our buttons, and drive us crazy?
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