Jewish marriage included a number of steps: first, betrothal (which involved the prospective grooms traveling from his fathers house to the home of the prospective bride, paying the purchase price, and thus establishing the marriage covenant); second, the grooms returning to his fathers house (which meant remaining separate from his bride for 12 months, during which time he prepared the living accommodations for his wife in his fathers house); third, the grooms coming for his bride at a time not known exactly to her; fourth, his return with her to the grooms fathers house to consummate the marriage and to celebrate the wedding feast for the next seven days (during which the bride remained closeted in her bridal chamber).1
4 We see similar irreconcilable differences in OT passages concerning His ministry: He is to reign as king (Isa. Isa. 9:6-7), but He is to die for the world (Isa. Isa. 53:1). How can these both be true? The answer is found in two separate comings. And so it is with Rapture and Second Coming passages.
5 John MacArthur, Revelation 12-22 : The MacArthur New Testament Commentary (Chicago, IL: Moody Press, 2000), Rev. 19:11.