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Dr. Audrey Davidheiser

Dr. Audrey DavidheiserDr. Audrey Davidheiser (www.aimforbreakthrough.com) is a licensed psychologist in California, certified Internal Family Systems (IFS) therapist, and IFSI-approved clinical consultant. After founding a counseling center for the Los Angeles Dream Center, she now provides IFS therapy for trauma survivors, including those with religious trauma, and assists in IFS trainings. She has been a regular writer for Crosswalk.com and columnist for iBelieve.com. Her book on how IFS helps the grieving process, Grieving Wholeheartedly, was published by InterVarsity Press in July 2025. Follow her on Facebook, Instagram, Substack @DrAudreyD.

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5 Lessons I Would've Loved to Teach My Younger Self
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5 Lessons I Would've Loved to Teach My Younger Self

June 5, 2026

“Are you a student, here for the conference?”

This question came from a stranger who had just stepped into the elevator. Her inquiry was valid. The conference I was headed to highlighted teens and student leaders in one of their sessions. But I couldn’t help but smirk.

“How old do you think I am?” I asked her. “Guess away. I won’t be offended,” I added.

She scrunched her lips. “Mmm . . . in your mid-20s, perhaps?”

Ha! I thought but didn’t say, that was more than 20 pounds and 20 years ago. When I disclosed my exact age, she frowned. 

“No way.” 

The woman maintained her disbelief after the elevator deposited us into a well-lit lobby, allowing her to scrutinize my face. To hunt for fine lines and wrinkles, I presume. She finally walked away. With a small shake of her head, I heard her murmur, “I can’t believe it.” 

The interaction lifted my spirit. It had been a while since a stranger mistook me for years younger than my physiological age. But the point of the story isn’t to boast about my good genes; it’s a reminder that I’m no longer the young adult I used to be. Since I’ve accumulated bits of wisdom in the intervening decades, there are lessons I know now that I didn’t two decades ago. And if you’d like to, you’re invited to adopt them for your own use.

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