Mike Leake

As I write this, we’re about a month away from New Year’s Day. That is the time when many of us will make resolutions to be better about prayer, Bible reading, and other spiritual disciplines. We know that having a quiet time with the Lord will boost our relationship, and yet we so often struggle to engage in these disciplines.

Before restarting in 2024, perhaps it would be good to do a brief assessment about why our intentions didn’t quite meet reality in 2023. Here are seven reasons our attempts at having a quiet time can fail — with a few tips on what you can do about it.

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Her persistence gets her justice. But what are we to make of this story? Does it mean that if you keep asking God over and over for something he will eventually buckle and give you what you want? Is this about a kid getting ice cream when he finally breaks his parents down?

Hell is a place of separation from the goodness of God, and all the good which He has created. How could we say that God could create such an awful place? We begin to answer this question when we consider who hell is for.

A few years ago, I suddenly realized how much I liked Blue Öyster Cult. Not because I didn’t enjoy their songs, but because I had no idea they sang some of them. I had thought they were a one hit wonder focused upon the glorious cow bell. Turns out they had other hits.

Our experience with the Bible can be similar. We know about the greatest hit — that God sent His Son Jesus to die for the sins of humanity, but we fail to realize that the Bible speaks to many issues. In fact, the Bible is the story which holds all other stories together. God’s Word is not an instruction manual, it is so much more. Yet, it does tell us how to live life in all of the important areas. Marriage is included in that point.

Here are seven surprising things the Bible says about being a husband.

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Charles Spurgeon once talked about a pastor having two legs: a preaching/study leg and a prayer leg. He said that preachers needed to be balanced or else they’d walk funny. And I suppose you could also say that if one of those legs is incredibly short, you’ll end up spinning in circles.

My prayer leg is much shorter than my preaching leg. In other words, I probably shouldn’t be the one writing this article.

Now that most of you have left, for those of you remaining can we be honest with each other? There is something about the concept of prayer that seems a little, I don’t know…boring? That doesn’t sound right to say. Uncomfortable? Unappealing? None of these words are helping my case.

We know that we ought to be men of prayer. We know that God is the one who makes things happen, that we’re dependent upon Him, and that prayer is vital part of our relationship. But we still struggle. In order to help with this, some well-meaning people have attempted to give us a nice simple definition of prayer: “talking to God.”

Maybe that’s part of our problem.

Let’s think about this for a second. Let’s say the wife and kids are out of town for the weekend and I want to invite a friend over. How do I do it? If I’m a dude, I’m probably not going to say, “Hey bro, want to come over so we can talk together?” Even if both of us are hungry for companionship and having a good talk, the reality is that he’ll likely tell me he has to “do some work around the house” and won’t be able to come over. But what if I say, “Hey dude, want to come over and watch the game with me”? He’s all in.

We’ll probably have some conversation in-between pitches – or if it’s an inferior sport we can converse during a time out. The point, though, is that dudes don’t tend to schedule “talk time” on their calendars. And I think that is why “prayer time” is starting from a deficit for many of us. Maybe reframe your thinking on this a little. Compare it more to “7 ways to get the most out of a baseball game” and less “7 ways to muster up the courage to attend your ‘talk time.’”  

I don’t want to cast my net too far here. Some guys aren’t nearly as threatened by the idea of talking and they’re probably in a better place with this whole prayer thing. They might be better ones to write this article. But for the time being you’ve only got me. So here are seven things that I’ve found help me with prayer time. I’ll try to make each of them mercifully short.

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Zacchaeus is a picture of radical transformation. It’s meant to be a contrast to the rich young ruler. He can’t depart from money. To him, Jesus isn’t enough of a treasure to do that for. That’s not the case with Zacchaeus. No, he believes Jesus is the one who is worth abandoning everything.

I’m going to begin with a provocative statement, then explain. Here it goes.

If reading the book of Revelation freaks you out, you’re either an unbeliever or you’re reading it wrongly.

I say that because the purpose of Revelation is not to create panic for believers. It’s not to show us some scary future. It was written to real people, living under the real beast of Roman persecution, and meant to deeply encourage them. Underneath all of the cryptic and apocalyptic language is one consistent message: Jesus wins! And if you’re with Jesus, then you win too.

Now if you happen to be siding with “the beast,” then I could understand why this would freak you out. And if you read it as some kind of crystal ball for the future and you turn locusts into Apache helicopters or something, I suppose I can also see why that might freak you out a little. But it’s really meant to be a quite hopeful book. Here are five ways to find hope in the book of Revelation.

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We need to consider how God forgives. He has a posture of forgiveness towards everyone. He will forgive in practice any person no matter what they’ve done. And that forgiveness comes when we unite to Him through Christ, by grace and through faith (of which repentance is just the other side of the coin). Posture. Practice.

I have learned through experience that spending time with God is one of the few things that is lastingly helpful. Though at times it feels like it is doing more harm than good, I’ve found that keeping on in this discipline is ultimately life-giving. There is no other fountain which can provide lasting help.

“You sit over there in that holler, and I’ll try to run a deer over to ya.”

“The what?!?”

“The holler. Over yonder.”

Some of our readers are visualizing a place out in the woods, the low place where if one where standing you’d see bluffs all around you, probably a river valley of sorts where a creek either once ran or occasionally still runs during a particularly rainy season. It’s kind of difficult to explain a holler to someone who doesn’t speak the language that uses phrases like “the holler.” But I know exactly what a holler is and I know what it’d mean for someone to run a deer to me — and also that it’d probably not be the best to be positioned in a holler in order to shoot a deer. But I also don’t deer hunt — I just happened to grow up around many people who did.

Some of our readers are clueless as to what a holler is and haven’t come much further in their understanding by my words. Truth is, you’d probably need me to point my finger at the holler. You’d need to be immersed in that world because there are some things that just don’t translate well.

As I write this, I’m knee deep in the Hebrew language — taking an Advanced Hebrew course. That doesn’t mean I’m good at Hebrew. Far from it. I am still finding it difficult to master the language. It’s a beautiful language, but one that I’m having a difficult time comprehending. But I am finding there is a richness to some of the words that I don’t always pick up just reading in English. To borrow the words of Princess Jasmine, it’s a whole new world. That world can be very confusing, and it can be rewarding.

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Micah 6:8 tells us that the thing God wants is not strict religious adherence or empty piety, it is for us to "walk humbly" with the Lord. That's easy to read, harder to put into practice. Let's look at exactly what it means to walk humbly with our God.

Was paradise the place where Old Testament saints went when they died but after the resurrection when people die, they go to heaven? Is paradise a different place than heaven? Yes. And no.

Being a Christian means that you trust in Jesus to save you. You trust fully in His completed work on the cross, placing all of your hope in His life, death, burial, and resurrection. That means that being a Christian isn’t about trying to be a good person. And it’s not about trying to earn your way to heaven through your good works.