About the author

Kelly-Jayne McGlynn

The views expressed in this commentary do not necessarily reflect those of CrosswalkHeadlines.

Kelly-Jayne McGlynn is a former editor at Crosswalk.com. She sees the act of expression, whether through writing or art, as a way to co-create with God and experience him deeper. Check out her handmade earrings on Instagram and her website for more of her thoughts on connecting with God through creative endeavors.

Latest writing

Articles by Kelly-Jayne McGlynn

6 Relational Needs That God Always Meets
PLUS

6 Relational Needs That God Always Meets

June 29, 2022

I don’t know about you, but I have a really difficult time connecting with God as a loving parent. It is something I am always growing in, but it is absolutely my natural default to see God as a disappointed father, shaking his head at me from far away. Or worse, some kind of amorphous, abstract orb floating out there in the Universe, completely out of tune with me.

I’m so grateful for how grounding Scripture is and how directly it can expose Satan’s lies for the silly, wisps-of-nothing that they are. Because the idea of a distant father, out of tune with what his children need, is the complete opposite of what God is.

The truth is, all humans come into this world needing love, because God designed us that way. We were made in his image; therefore we are deeply relational, just as he is. We can’t get by without loving relationships.

Psychologists, therapists, counselors, and others have different names for the aspects of healthy relationships, like felt safety and containment. My point isn’t to delve too deeply into each of these needs or what they mean, because I am not a therapist. But I am a daughter of God in need of attachment to him, and this framework from Christian counselor Adam Young really helps me to see how closely God walks with me and parents me, no matter how old I get.

Adam Young states that these 6 relational needs are at the core of every secure parent-child relationship:

1. Attunement with your needs

2. Responsiveness to your emotions

3. Engagement with your heart and your person

4. Ability to regulate your affect

5. Ability to handle your negative emotions

6. Willingness to repair the relationship when needed

After I heard these for the first time, I realized how much I needed to know that God met these needs for me. I needed to see it laid out in Scripture, since it is so easy for me to naturally believe the opposite.

Here are the verses I found that show how abundantly God meets every one of our relational needs.

Photo credit: Unsplash/Ben White

Read article
How to Let Go of What You Want
PLUS

How to Let Go of What You Want

May 5, 2022

I want so many things that I don’t have. As I write this, I feel the weight of how true that is – how frustrating and disappointing life can feel. As a twenty-something with so much of life still feeling extremely unsettled, but wanting life to be so grand and so magical, I look at my mental list of things that I have versus the things that I don’t and sense a temper tantrum, directed at God, rising up in me.

And on top of my natural inclination to think that God just enjoys holding out on me, we live in a culture where the ideas of “manifest everything you want” and “just visualize it hard enough and it will be yours” are everywhere. I do believe that God has given us so much agency over our lives and we really can make amazing things happen; but when I focus on all of the things that I want rather than on who God is, the quality of my relationship with God begins to absolutely tank.

I experienced this earlier this year. As I thought about what I wanted to happen in 2022, I thought I’d dream big. A trip to Paris, a thriving business, the wedding of my dreams. So far though, months later, and the needle has hardly moved on any of those dreams. And Paris is certainly not a possibility at the moment. I journaled about these big dreams and told God about them, but I just…never let go. I held onto them so tightly that they replaced any peace God was trying to give me.

But I am learning that God, at his core, is a good Father. And because he is a good Father, I can rest. I can look forward to what a future life could look like while simultaneously being grateful for what I have right now. Here are the steps that help me the most when I want something really desperately, but don’t want to lose sight of God as a perfect Father.

Photo credit: ©Getty Images/twpixels

Read article
Why Is the Cross Associated with Easter?

Why Is the Cross Associated with Easter?

March 29, 2022

Compared to Easter bunnies, spring flowers, and candy, the symbol of the cross could be seen as a bit gruesome and not kid-friendly. But as Christians, we know that although the cross symbolizes an excruciating death, it also symbolizes a beautiful sacrifice and a love that we could never fathom the riches of.

But why is the cross associated with Easter? Why did Christians choose the cross as the symbol for their biggest celebration of the year? Let’s read on to learn about the origins of this symbol, and why we Christians use it while celebrating Easter.

Photo credit: ©Getty Images/didoi

Read article
4 Powerful Lessons from the Life of Hagar

4 Powerful Lessons from the Life of Hagar

March 15, 2022

A lonely, abused, single mother and slave girl who encounters God so intimately that she is the only person in the entire Bible who gives God a name – that is the legacy of the incredible woman we learn about in Genesis: Hagar.

Hagar was Sarah’s slave, and the mother of Abraham’s first son because Sarah could not conceive. Although she experiences torment and abuse from her mistress and her circumstances, God is faithful to her and blesses her despite it all.

Hagar is a woman who experiences God’s goodness firsthand and trusts him fully. We can learn so much from her boldness and the blessings God provides for her throughout her entire life.

Here is a brief summary of who Hagar is and four meaningful lessons we can learn from her life:

Photo credit: Unsplash/Molly Belle

Read article