My Spouse Isn't Who I Married: What Do I Do Now? - PLUS Marriage Devotional

Find a New, Purposeful Rhythm

When you feel like your spouse isn't the same person you married, spend time prayerfully considering what has changed. It might be that they still have the same work ethic but are slowing down as they age. Perhaps they are developing their spiritual gifts and stepping out in faith. Or they might simply be bored with their current routine and are trying to shake things up.

The important thing is to keep these changes in perspective and not jump to conclusions. Don't assume things, but rather, address things wisely. In fact, this might be the best time find a new rhythm that you both find exciting and purposeful. Here are a few ideas:

-Go on a mission trip.

-Start a side-hustle.

-Join a gym.

-Take a college class.

-Start a non-profit.

The Lord brought you together for a purpose, and when you step into that purpose together, an amazing bond is created. Let the latter years of marriage be the best years by talking openly, regaining common ground, and finding a new, purposeful rhythm.

Let's Pray: Heavenly Father, my spouse and I have changed through the years, and it seems like we're entirely different people. But I recognize the enemy's plans to divide us, and I reject his lies now, in the mighty name of Jesus. Strengthen our communication, Lord, and help us regain common ground, especially through faith and family. I'm willing to join my spouse in finding a new rhythm that brings You glory and connects us in meaningful ways. Bless my marriage, Lord, and make it stronger than ever before. In Jesus' name, amen.

Application: What are your biggest concerns regarding the differences you see in your spouse? Confess them to the Lord and declare, "The Lord will perfect that which concerns me." (Psalm 138:8)

Challenge: Schedule an informal dinner date to discuss ways you can reconnect, regain common ground, and move forward with purpose.

Jennifer Waddle is the author of several books, including Prayer WORRIER: Turning Every Worry into Powerful Prayer, and is a regular contributor for LifeWay, Crosswalk, Abide, and Christians Care International. Jennifer’s online ministry is EncouragementMama.com where you can find her books and sign up for her weekly post, Discouragement Doesn’t Win. She resides with her family near the foothills of the Rocky Mountains—her favorite place on earth. 

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