Proverbs 19:18

18 Discipline your son while there is hope; do not set your heart on his destruction.

Proverbs 19:18 Meaning and Commentary

Proverbs 19:18

Chasten thy son while there is hope
Of guiding and keeping him in the right way, as long as corrections are or can be hoped to be of use; while in a state of infancy, childhood, and youth; while under parental government; and before habits in sin are grown strong, and the case become desperate, and he is hardened, and proof against all instruction and discipline; and let not thy soul spare for his crying;
the noise he makes, the tears he sheds, the entreaties he uses to keep off the rod; let not a foolish pity and tenderness prevail to lay it aside on that account the consequence of which may be bad to parent and child; see ( Proverbs 13:24 ) ( Proverbs 23:13 Proverbs 23:14 ) . The Targum is,

``but unto his death do not lift up thy soul;''
or to the slaying of him F20, as the Vulgate Latin version; and this sense Jarchi gives into: and then the meaning is, that though parents should be careful to give due correction to their children, so long as there is hope of doing them good, yet not in a brutal and barbarous manner, to the endangering of their lives: as some parents are too indolent, mild, and gentle, as Eli was; others are too wrathful and furious and use no moderation in their corrections, but unmercifully beat their children; such extremes ought to be avoided. Gersom interprets the word of crying, as we do.
FOOTNOTES:

F20 (wtymh la) "ad interficiendum cum", Pagninus, Vatablus, Mercerus, Gejerus; "ad occidendum sum", Piscator, Cocceius, Tigurine version, Michaelis, Schultens, Gussetius, p. 534.

Proverbs 19:18 In-Context

16 He who keeps the commandment keeps his life; he who despises the word will die.
17 He who is kind to the poor lends to the LORD, and he will repay him for his deed.
18 Discipline your son while there is hope; do not set your heart on his destruction.
19 A man of great wrath will pay the penalty; for if you deliver him, you will only have to do it again.
20 Listen to advice and accept instruction, that you may gain wisdom for the future.
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