7 Beautiful Ways to Support Those Who Have Miscarried
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Be aware of what the due date was supposed to be for the baby. I know my friends have dreaded the due dates when they were going to meet their babies. Think of ways in which you can especially love on her that day.
Send her a care package. Call her and talk with her. If you live in the same city, spend time together or do something special. The due date is a hard day for a mom and for a dad. It is a day that marks a lost dream. Think of how you can uniquely bless your friend on a very difficult day.
Mother’s Day rolls around every year. It can be such a joyful day or a reminder of the loss of life. Your friend is still a mother by God’s definition. Think of how you can encourage her that day. Bless her with a card, gift her with a paid massage, get her flowers, or go shopping. Try to be aware that this is an annual day that can be a struggle and hurt to her.
It is wonderful to be a listener and friend through as hard time. However, if your friend is not getting professional Christian counseling and you see signs of depression or anxiety in her that you are not equipped to help with, please send her towards a professional. Encourage her that this is not a shameful decision, but a brave choice to get stronger and process this horrible loss in her life.
We can love and encourage, but we can only give someone what we have been equipped to provide. I have seen how counseling has really benefitted my friends who have gone through these kinds of losses and helped them move forward.
I am so proud of the women who are sharing their stories of miscarriages and making it known how common and heartbreaking it can be. We can stand beside our sisters in these challenges and help them to feel valued and loved in their losses. We can listen, mourn with them, pray for them, encourage their marriages, remember their due dates and Mother’s Day, and know when to guide them to higher equipped individuals.
It is our calling as believers to mourn with those who mourn. Romans 12:15 says, “Rejoice with those who rejoice; mourn with those who mourn.” Help your friends not to grieve in silence, but to know that you are there for them and walking with them through this loss.
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